As the temperatures rise and the days grow longer, summer brings a sense of excitement for many. But for those of us who have struggled with disordered eating or body image issues, this season can also bring a wave of anxiety. The pressure to achieve that perfect "beach body" seems to intensify, and suddenly, our worth feels tied to a number on a scale or the size of our swimsuit.Sweet friend, I see you. I've been there, and I know how hard this struggle can be.
The Summer Struggle is Real
There's something about slipping into more revealing summer clothes or facing a day at the beach that can make our insecurities scream louder than ever. Society bombards us with images of "perfect" bodies and messages about how we should look to enjoy the season fully. I remember summers when I'd avoid pool parties or wear cover-ups in sweltering heat, all to hide the body I was ashamed of. The voice of my eating disorder would grow stronger, urging me to restrict or purge to achieve that elusive "ideal" figure.
But here's the truth I want you to hear today: You are so much more than a number.
Your worth isn't determined by the size of your shorts or the digits on a scale. It's not found in the calories you consume or burn. You are a unique, beautiful creation of God, with gifts, talents, and a purpose that have nothing to do with your physical appearance.
When "Clean Eating" Becomes an Idol
In our pursuit of health and that "summer body," it's easy for "clean eating" to become an obsession. I've been there, meticulously planning every meal, feeling guilty over any food that wasn't "pure" enough. But this perfectionism isn't healthy – it's a form of disordered eating called orthorexia.
If you find yourself constantly stressed about the "cleanness" of your food, unable to enjoy meals with loved ones, or feeling intense guilt over eating "imperfectly," it might be time to take a step back. Remember, nourishing your body is important, but so is nourishing your soul with joy, connection, and flexibility.
Recognizing Weight Loss Obsession
Has the desire to lose weight for summer become all-consuming? Are you spending more time thinking about diet and exercise than enjoying life? This hyper-focus on weight loss can be a slippery slope into disordered eating behaviors.
Ask yourself: Why do I want to lose weight? Is it truly for my health, or is it because I believe I'll be more worthy or lovable at a smaller size? Sweet friend, you are already worthy of love and belonging, exactly as you are right now.
Finding Freedom This Summer
Instead of fixating on changing your body this summer, what if you focused on changing your perspective? Here are some ideas:
Practice gratitude for what your body can do, not just how it looks.
Choose activities you enjoy, not just ones that burn calories.
Wear clothes that make you feel comfortable and confident, regardless of size.
Challenge negative self-talk with affirmations of your true worth.
Focus on making memories, not shrinking your body.
Embracing Your God-Given Worth
Remember, you are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14). God doesn't look at your outward appearance, but at your heart (1 Samuel 16:7). Your value comes from being a beloved child of God, not from your weight, your eating habits, or your appearance.
When those doubts and insecurities creep in this summer, I encourage you to turn to God's word. Remind yourself of His unconditional love for you. You are precious, honored, and loved (Isaiah 43:4), not because of how you look, but because of whose you are.
Sweet friend, recovery is possible. Freedom from the bondage of eating disorders and body shame is available. It's not always an easy journey – believe me, I know – but it's so worth it. This summer, I pray you'll take steps towards embracing your true worth and finding freedom in Christ.
If you're struggling, please don't hesitate to reach out for help. I would love to help you in this journey. Let’s get started today! I have resources and support available.
Remember, you are loved, you are valuable, and you are so much more than a number on a scale.
Big hugs,
Nicole🩷
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